Anger in Relationships
A few tips in dealing with anger:
- Value the recognition and expression of anger
- Express anger in a way that does not assassinate another’s character
- Don’t hold on to anger or nurse grudges
- Recognize danger signs when anger gets in the way of relationships
- Talk more about yourself than about what is wrong wit the other person
- Decide when it is better not to express anger
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Dealing effectively with conflict and confrontation
Conflict can be a healthy sign of individual differences. If conflict emerges, keep the following points in mind:
- If you confront a person, know why
- View confrontation as a caring act
- Accept responsibility for your own feelings
- Tell others how you are struggling with them
- Don’t walk away from conflict be open to forgiving others who have hurt you
- Be willing to forgive yourself
Barriers to effective communication
- recognizing communication blocks is the first step forward opening the channels to dialogue
- some barriers are:
o hearing only what you want to hear
o being overly concerned about getting your point across
o silently rehearsing what you will say as you are “listening”
o Becoming overly defensive making assumptions about the other person without checking them out
Coping worth the termination of a meaningful relationship
- allow yourself the time to grieve
- express your anger without violence
- take responsibility for your own part in the relationship
- find a support network
- take care of other aspects of you life
- make use of writing in your journal
- be willing to forgive—both yourself and the other person
- seek closure and learn from the experience
Notes by professor
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ReplyDeleteSomething for the coping with the end of a meaningful relationship; don't let yourself idealize the other person afterwards. I've noticed lots of people put their past relationships up on pedestals after they are over.
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ReplyDeletegreat advice!
ReplyDeleteThese are good points. I have also studied the ways of giving feedback. Cheers!
ReplyDeletei prefer to bottle my anger and nurture it till i can use it effectively against someone.
ReplyDeleteBeen in a relationship for 4 years so far, she still hasnt gotten the fact that I need my space with the boys.
ReplyDeleteSolid, Sound advice man, thanks!
ReplyDeleteThis is very enlightening. Most people think that anger is a negative emotion but it is one of the most basic emotions that humans have.
ReplyDeleteThats quite a different perspective on the issue of anger it self in relationships. Definitely worth a read.
ReplyDeleteI've been guilty of "rehearsing" while I'm supposed to say when I'm supposed to be listening.
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